We have all heard divorce horror stories. Emotions can run high and the couple is sometimes already at the end of their patience with each when they begin the divorce process. Aggression and name calling can crop up in people who are otherwise very level headed. But it does not have to be this way.

The core function of a divorce is to allow both parties to escape a failed relationship. This will allow them a fresh start, to live their lives without the baggage of a negative relationship. When possible there may be no better time to begin moving past the failed dynamic of the relationship than during the divorce process itself. It is not always easy, but fortunately there are strategies and techniques that can make it less difficult.

In many divorces some form of alternative dispute resolution is a useful tool to accomplish the requirements of the divorce process without slugging it out in court. A mediator can facilitate this by helping the parties cooperate to come to an agreement. Having an objective voice at the negotiating table allows everyone to share a more pragmatic perspective.

There are also a number of tactics both individuals can take to avoid undesired stress or negative interactions. If both sides are able to exercise a little humility and avoid seeking out opportunities to unnecessarily cast the other party in a negative light attempts at alternative dispute resolution are often more successful. Finally it can be useful to remember that if the attempts at alternative dispute resolution are not successful, there is always room for more aggressive tactics if you have no choice but to bring your dispute into the courtroom.

Source: Huffington Post, "6 Steps to a Peaceful Divorce," Ashley Davis Bush, Jan. 25, 2012